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SG gatecrash game planner

Plan your gatecrash games

Her door has six locks: brain, taste, voice, moves, muscle and the ang bao deal. Pick one game for each, or let us surprise you. Then watch the brothers try to get in, and send the lineup to your sisters.

Opening the door…

No locks set yet. Most couples do 4 or 5 games in about 30 minutes.

34 gatecrash game ideas, by lock

Sweet games are safe with parents and cameras watching. Cheeky ones get a laugh. Wild ones need the bride's yes first.

Brain games · How well does he know her?

  • Bride trivia 考新郎

    Ten questions about her: first date, bubble tea order, the name of her childhood dog. Wrong answer, a brother pays the forfeit.

    Sweet · 8 min · Question cards

  • Guess her lipstick 猜唇印

    Five lip prints on a card, one of them hers. He gets one guess.

    Sweet · 4 min · Lipstick, card

  • Which baby is her? 认宝宝

    Six baby photos of the sisters and the bride. Point to her.

    Sweet · 4 min · Printed photos

  • Put our story in order 爱情时间线

    Ten photos of the two of you, shuffled. He lines them up and tells the story as he goes.

    Sweet · 8 min · Printed photos

  • Rebuild her face 拼新娘

    Black-and-white selfies of the bride and sisters, cut into eyes, nose and lips and mixed up. He puts hers back together.

    Sweet · 5 min · Printed photos, scissors

  • Guess her voice 听声辨新娘

    Blindfolded, he hears the bride and each sister say the same line. Which one is her?

    Sweet · 4 min · A blindfold

Taste games · Four flavours of marriage

  • Guess her bubble tea 猜奶茶

    Four cups of bubble tea. He finds her usual order by taste alone.

    Sweet · 4 min · 4 bubble teas, a blindfold

  • Sour, sweet, bitter, spicy 酸甜苦辣

    Four small cups. He drinks each one and says what it means for your marriage.

    Cheeky · 6 min · Lemon, honey, bitter gourd, chilli

  • Dumpling roulette 饺子轮盘

    Six dumplings, two of them secretly spicy. Each brother picks one and eats it with a straight face.

    Cheeky · 5 min · Dumplings, chilli

  • Hands-free snack 咬饼干

    Snacks hang on strings. Brothers eat them with their hands behind their backs.

    Cheeky · 5 min · String, snacks

  • Blindfold feeding 蒙眼喂食

    A blindfolded brother feeds the groom a mystery spoonful. The sisters choose what goes on the spoon.

    Cheeky · 4 min · Blindfold, spoons, small snacks

  • Oreo roll 奥利奥

    Roll an Oreo down a board into cups of dips. Eat whatever it lands in.

    Wild · 6 min · Oreos, wasabi, vinegar

Voice games · Say it so she hears it

  • Sing for your bride 唱情歌

    The brothers serenade her through the door. It opens only when she smiles.

    Sweet · 4 min · None

  • Ten promises 十大承诺

    He reads ten promises out loud, from silly to serious. The sisters keep the card.

    Sweet · 4 min · A card and pen

  • I love you in five languages 五种语言说爱你

    English, Mandarin, Malay, Tamil and one of his choosing. Loud enough for the neighbours.

    Sweet · 2 min · None

  • Finish the lyric 接歌词

    The music stops mid-chorus. The brothers sing the next line or pay.

    Sweet · 5 min · Speaker

  • A poem from her name 藏头诗

    One compliment, memory or promise for each letter of her name, made up on the spot.

    Sweet · 5 min · A card and pen

  • Propose again 再求一次婚

    He re-does the proposal through the door, with a twist the sisters pick: in an accent, in a plank, or in Hokkien.

    Cheeky · 4 min · None

Moves games · Show us what you've got

  • Dance for entry 跳舞

    A 15-second routine the brothers learned the night before, performed in the corridor.

    Cheeky · 5 min · Speaker

  • Act out our story 你比我猜

    Brothers act out moments from your relationship. The groom guesses each one.

    Sweet · 7 min · Prompt cards

  • Draw her in 30 seconds 画新娘

    Each brother draws for five seconds and passes it on. The groom signs the masterpiece.

    Sweet · 3 min · Paper, pen

  • Copy this pose 摆姿势

    The sisters hold up a photo pose. The brothers recreate it for the camera.

    Cheeky · 4 min · Printed poses

  • Emoji charades 表情猜猜

    The sisters show her most-used emojis. The brothers act each one out until the groom guesses it.

    Sweet · 5 min · Emoji cards

  • Paper-plane promises 纸飞机誓言

    Each brother writes a promise on a paper plane and flies it at a heart on the door. Only hits count.

    Sweet · 4 min · Paper, a heart target

Muscle games · Earn your way in

  • Balloon pop hunt 踩气球

    Clues hide inside balloons. Pop them without hands to find the key to her door.

    Sweet · 5 min · Balloons, clue notes

  • Shake it off 摇摇乐

    A tissue box of ping-pong balls tied at the waist. Shake until it's empty.

    Cheeky · 4 min · Tissue boxes, ping-pong balls

  • Push-up promises 俯卧撑

    One push-up for every year you've been together, with a promise at the top of each.

    Cheeky · 3 min · None

  • Sticky-note shake 便利贴

    Twenty sticky notes on each brother. Get them off without using hands.

    Cheeky · 3 min · Sticky notes

  • Diaper relay 换尿布

    Each brother puts a diaper on a doll against the clock. Practice for later.

    Sweet · 4 min · Dolls, diapers

  • Mahjong ice bath 冰水麻将

    Pick three winning tiles out of iced water. With feet.

    Wild · 4 min · Pail, ice, mahjong tiles

Final gate games · The ang bao deal

  • Ang bao ladder 开门利是

    Small red packets first, then bigger ones. The best man negotiates; the sisters decide when it's enough.

    Sweet · 5 min · Ang baos in 8s and 9s

  • Chopstick pick-up 筷子夹红包

    Pick up each ang bao with chopsticks and drop it through the letterbox.

    Sweet · 4 min · Chopsticks, ang baos

  • Find her shoes 找婚鞋

    Her wedding shoes are hidden. Each clue costs one ang bao.

    Sweet · 6 min · Her shoes, clue cards

  • The ang bao tab 罚款红包

    Every wrong answer and skipped forfeit all morning goes on a tab. At the door, he settles the bill.

    Sweet · 3 min · Ang baos, a tally card

Gatecrash questions

How many gatecrash games should we plan?
Four or five, including the ang bao deal at the end. That is about 30 minutes of play. Block 45 minutes in your morning, because games overrun and the tea ceremony has a fixed time.
How much ang bao should the groom prepare for the gatecrash?
Most couples in Singapore prepare about S$188 to S$388 in total, and some go up to S$888. Split it into many small red packets and one or two bigger ones for the final deal. Amounts ending in 8 or 9 are the usual choice; avoid 4. Agree the range with the sisters beforehand, and agree that the sisters keep what they win.
What are the 10 promises in a gatecrash?
The groom reads ten promises out loud at the door, from silly to serious: who does the dishes, who wakes up for the baby, that he will always choose her. The sisters keep the signed card as a keepsake. It is the Ten promises game in the Voice lock.
How do we keep the gatecrash fun and not mean?
Let the bride approve every game and write down a hard-no list. Keep food mild and portions small, skip anything with pain or innuendo, and use water instead of alcohol. Set the vibe switch to Sweet and the planner only shows games that are safe with parents and cameras watching.
Is anything saved?
No. Your picks stay on this page until you leave it, and nothing is sent to us. Copy the lineup to WhatsApp to keep it.

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